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Ep88 Transcript: How to Push Through Resistance – Quick Fix Friday
Hey, late starters. This episode of Quick Fix Friday is gonna be a little bit different as I talk a little bit more from my heart around pushing past resistance.
Hello Dreamers. Welcome to the Late Starters Club, giving you the inspiration mindset and tools you need to start something midlife and beyond. Remember, it’s never too late to follow your dreams.
So I am now on episode 88 here, and I was reflecting on episode 86 where I talked to Dr. Fleet Maull and talking about his struggles through adversity. He talked about how we overestimate the things we can get done in a week and underestimate the things we can get done in a year.
And while that is true, for sure, I was noticing that I was having some real resistance around making some of these short episodes because there was this voice in my head, this resistance that was coming up, saying, what’s the point? Is anyone even listening or, you know, I thought I would be further along than I am, and what I was seeing is that this resistance can come up in so many ways as we’re going along this journey.
Resistance is just a way of protecting us against disappointment and resistance shows up for me when I feel a little bit disappointed. Resistance is an opportunist and it says, aha. Yes. You’re feeling a little bit of disappointment around maybe the results you’re seeing or you’re not there fast enough or you thought you’d be in a different place by now. And, and so resistance prays on that and says, yes, that’s right. What is the point here? And why are you doing this? And, and resistance is trying to protect you from further disappointment and it tells you to just stop now and to, you know, give up cuz it knew that wasn’t gonna turn out anyway.
And what happens is it’s just this wall, and I noticed that in running as well. We hit this wall in running where we feel unable to go any further and we’re wondering why the hell we signed up for this race actually. And that’s how it can be. And, and that’s how it’s feeling right now in this podcast, for me, even though we just hit this milestone of 6,000 downloads, you know, there’s this like hope that it’s gonna just go viral or it’s gonna be amazing, or it’s gonna just take off and all of a sudden, you know, we’ll have millions of listeners and that’s not usually how it works, it usually takes a lot of time and we look at someone else’s journey and we see their success and we don’t even see all the work that went into it and the disappointment and the walls that they hit as well.
And so what I’m trying to do right now is just sit with this resistance and be with it. And I wanna just talk to my resistance like a little child and acknowledge that resistance and say thank you so much for showing up and trying to protect me and trying to be there for me. Cuz you know I’ve been hurt in the past and you don’t want that for me.
Right? But my mission is bigger than that, and I know that if I just keep going, that I will have the reward at the end. And maybe that reward is not gonna look exactly like I thought it would. Maybe I’ll never have tons and tons of listeners, but I have found this podcast so rewarding already that I don’t care.
I mean, I do care. I do care. Let’s be honest. All right, I care. But I just wanna say that we can sit with that discomfort and be within and acknowledge it. But we don’t want that resistance to make our decisions for us because I made this commitment and I know with my years of wisdom, and that’s one of the advantages of being a late starter, is that I know that we can push through this wall and have an amazing, beautiful, wonderful outcome, and I’m not done. I don’t, I’m not ready to give up on anything. In fact, if I really just sit and examine the success that I’ve already had that. That will carry me through. So I also love Elizabeth Gilbert has this same theme that she talks about and one of my favorite, favorite books, Big Magic.
And she talks about the resistance in coming up as an artist and talking about how you can invite that resistance in to be a co-pilot and acknowledge that resistance, but the resistance doesn’t get to drive the car. They can be a passenger. They don’t even get to touch the radio, but you can have it there and compartmentalize it and allow it to be, but you are still driving the car, finishing the race, and moving towards that big beautiful goal that you set out to achieve. So that’s what I’m gonna keep doing and I’d love to hear your thoughts and share with me some of the places you’ve found resistance and push through. All right. Thanks everyone.
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